Thursday, November 4, 2010

"Think of stretch marks as pregnancy service stripes." -Joyce Armor

Yesterday I was on a date with my blog reader, trying to catch up on over 1000 missed blog posts (!) when I happened upon this striking beauty. Reading about another woman's pregnancy made me think about the insecurities I struggled with during my own pregnancy, some of which I have resolved and some of which still linger. This is the letter I would have sent to my pregnant self from the future.


38weeks 5days, 10 minutes before leaving for the hospital

Dear Pregnant Rachel,
This is your life. The choices you have made and those that were made for you have led you here, to the cusp of motherhood. Love it or hate it, but embrace it. Be honest, at least with yourself, about how you are feeling.

You will miss being pregnant. No, really. You will miss having le guppy to yourself. You will miss the kicks, that elbow digging into your ribs, the soft hiccups in the middle of the night, when the house is still and the sounds of passing cars and the ceiling fan seem deafening in the quiet. Try to hold onto those stolen moments when things are scary or gross or just plain inconvenient.

Your marriage will survive and thrive. The sweet clumsy first time parenting experience will bring you closer than you have ever been. Your amazing husband will be an amazing father too. I'm talking diaper changing, baby kissing, lullaby singing, baby-wearing dad. You will love him more than you do right now, especially when he takes the baby so you can take a shower.

Harper will be everything you hoped for and more. Beautiful, with big blue eyes and a smile as bright as the sun. A little July firecracker, with a charming, fierce personality from the start. Yes, I said July. She comes early, pack a bag. She is already your greatest achievement. A new soul and a Beatles fan.

You lose all your pregnancy weight and fit back into your jeans a few weeks after Harper arrives. Stop worrying about if you look fat, you do, its part of being pregnant! (and try not to focus on the stretch marks, they are just part of the game). You are going to miss all that wonderful creamy, buttery, delicious dairy in a few short months, so live it up and eat a bowl of ice cream.

Just a few more things. You will be buried under a mountain of laundry but you learn not to care, the first six weeks are really really really hard but they get exponentially better after that. Stick with breastfeeding, you'll get the hang of it. And best of all, the dogs won't eat her.

Love, your postpartum self

24 comments:

  1. This is a beautiful letter :) I can't wait to write mine, later.

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  2. This is so cute! And I'm totally jealous that you're back in your pre-pregnancy jeans. LOL

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  3. This is so, so sweet. I couldn't help but grin all the way through it. I'm so glad things are going so wonderfully for you :)

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  4. That letter was so sweet. It actually brought tears to my eyes. Why, oh why, do I have this dang baby fever? Yeah. And this post didn't help. LOL

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  5. I've always seen letters to one's 16 year old self but never to a pregnant self. that's really sweet!

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  6. That is such a heartfelt, sweet letter to your pregnant self. I love this idea (also never seen it before). It would be lovely for you baby to read this one day :)

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  7. Sweetness. Make sure you have these printed for Harper. She will really really appreciate all of your letters someday. xo MamaBear

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  8. It would be nice to have that kind of insight while we're going through the tough spots in life.

    Knowing me, I wouldn't believe it anyway.

    Beautiful post.

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  9. So sweet. Wish we all could have wrote and SENT those letters to our pregnant selves (and had them *receive* them). Would have helped so much with all the insecurities!! :-)

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  11. I also love this. So perfect and so true!

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  13. Rachel, thanks so much for reading my blog today and commenting. I love the title of your blog. It is so unique, and I enjoyed reading the letter you wrote to yourself. It'll be cool to re-read it in five years. Blog on it.

    Excellent site. Enjoy the baby and your new role as mommy.

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  15. This is such a great letter--you've inspired me to try writing one too! I think my baby is just a little older than yours...he was born at the end of May. I also enjoyed reading through your other posts. I love the quotes at the beginning of each post! Keep up the good work!

    ~Carla
    www.jollyjansen.blogspot.com
    http://HoustonParentsMagazine.com

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  16. Love it! Following you from MBC, hope you visit back at http://www.momstreehouse.com/. Come and hang out for awhile. ; )

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  17. Holy crap this makes me smile. Way to self-reflect.

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  18. Thank you for stopping by my blog and leaving me a comment... not just for the comment but because it meant I discovered yours! This is such a gorgeous post, and, as someone in the middle of my first pregnancy, an absolutely wonderful thing to read. Thank you so much for writing this :)

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  19. Oh Rachel...I cried! This is so beautiful and endearing. I often wonder how a baby will change my relationship, if I will be smart enough to enjoy every ache & pain instead of hating it... So many wonderful thoughts here, thank you!
    And I love her name!!

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  20. Oh man, this is just the best letter ever! I've been making myself letter notes. Sometime I will have to go out and do a full blown one. XO

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